There is a beautiful saying “Love is just a word, until someone comes along and gives it meaning”. Some believe that there are only 3 people that we will meet and fall in love with, and we will do so for a different reason. The first person we fall in love in is during our teenage years. This love is innocent and is very similar to love stories we read about. This love is compatible to the expectations of society in general. At that time, we think this is going to be our first and only love.
Sometimes that love might not seem right, and we often try to go against our own truths just to make it work because we think compromising our own beliefs is what love is all about. During this type of love, we are more worried about what others would say instead of how we feel. This type of love is one that just looks right.
The second one is tough love which will teach us lessons about who we are and what we want from love. It is full of lies, pain and manipulations. We believe we have made a better choice than our first love, but even if it might not be with the right person, it is needed to help us find out what we want from love. This love can be a vicious circle making us do the same things with hoping for a different result. But, each time the result is even worse than the previous one.
This love can be unhealthy, frustrating and can even get nasty. It is not uncommon for physical and emotional abuse to become involved. There is also a lot of drama that keeps us addicted to the feeling. Trying to make things work is more important during this love rather than re-thinking about whether we should even try in the first place.
The third love comes unexpectedly and we never see it coming. It looks wrong and completely different from what we consider love. It comes easily but seems very unrealistic. This type of connection is inexplicable and it is never possible to plan it. The third love appears as a click with one person and we don’t have any expectations about it. This person shakes us to the core and accepts us for exactly who we are.
It might not be what we thought love would look like, but it is definitely show that true love should not be in accordance with what we have imagined it to be. This love will keep knocking on your door no matter how long it will take you to open it. It will make you feel like you are the best version of yourself.
Not everyone is lucky enough to meet or recognize all these three types of love. Maybe we are not just ready for them, or we simply need to learn more about it. Some people need more time to learn different lessons, and it is not always whether we are ready for love, but sometimes it is about whether love is ready for us.
The most extremely lucky people meet the third type of love. But as we said, this is just a matter of luck, and also it is important to go through pain and heartbreak in order to learn how to appreciate this love.
After all, we should focus on how we love and our choices are up to us only. We are the ones who will choose at which love we will stay and figure out whether we want to settle or get the best of it. The person who will make you feel like home without a particular reason, or the one that will make you calm and relaxed the minute you see them, is the one who will be there for the rest of your life. However, each love is unique and important by itself. The first love is special, the second is necessary and the third is nothing but amazing.