Not every relationship has a bright and long-lasting future. Some people come in our lives to teach us a lesson how to become stronger and smarter. Not every partner is your soulmate and there are different relationships with different people. Some relationships may be shallow, others one-sided when you will feel like you are the only person making an effort. This is called unreciprocated love when your love is taken for granted without getting anything back from your partner. This kind of a relationship is everything but healthy.
Healthy relationships are full of commitment, effort and unconditional love which you will never doubt. Unless you feel you are receiving all this from one person, you should never plan a future with them. Here are some important things you need to remember when you are in a relationship.
1. Some people don’t know what love really is
If it is futile or vague it is not love. Love should be beautiful and causing happiness. But, not everyone actually understands the meaning of love. Some people should never waste a minute of your time and affection because they can often be too self-centered that they don’t even know how to love someone else. Make sure you don’t spend energy or time on such people because it is difficult for them to change.
2. Your soulmate is the person who loves you for who you are
There is no such thing as a perfect person. Everyone has imperfections and there is no such thing as two people who are exactly the same. Finding your soulmate does not mean you should find someone who is exactly like you. It is about finding a person who will make you feel complete and who will know everything about you. Your soulmate will know all your flaws, secrets and will love you for them, too. This person will look beyond your imperfections and will know how to take care of you.
3. Someone who knows what it takes to maintain a partnership
Your partner shouldn’t only be your lover, but also your friend. If only one person makes all the effort in a relationship, it will never progress. Love means being willing to make sacrifices, to compromise as well as to adjust a bit. Your partner should love you at your best but also support you at your worst. You should rely on them when you need a shoulder to cry on. You should work together to build something strong and lasting. Give each other compliments and hold hands when you are walking even through the difficult paths.
Falling in love may seem like a very difficult task especially if you have been hurt so often that it is difficult to trust people again. But, your soulmate is not the person you should punish for other people’s mistakes. Finding this person will help you get in touch with your true self and you will want to become a better person each day. Don’t be selfish, love will not come to you by itself. You will get what you give, so always be prepared to share love and kindness and with just a bit of patience you will find your soulmate.