Have you ever had the feeling that you are too tired to do anything about your relationship? Or like you no longer seem to have the strength to argue or explain? If you feel like your relationship is not going anywhere no matter how hard you try, you were probably trying too hard. Sacrificing your mental health for the sake of something that is not giving you any happiness in return, is not worth it.
It is important to set your priorities straight and figure out where you want to go with your life. Here are 8 signs you are trying too hard in a relationship.
1.Too much effort
If you feel like you are always the one in your relationship who is trying to set things straight while your partner is only busy taking care of their personal issues, it is probably a sign to stop whatever you are doing. Even though it might be easy for you to picture your future together, if your partner does not take any of your plans seriously, they are not worth it.
2.Making all the plans
If one of the partners always makes the plans and the other gets away with it, the relationship will fail sooner or later. When in a healthy relationship, both partners should be willing to put in the same amount of effort and switch roles when it comes to making plans. You should also never drop everything just because your partner does not like it.
3.Justification for a relationship
Your relationship is not a courtroom so stop trying to justify everything that happens between the two of you. If you constantly think whether something was a mistake of whether you did something wrong, you can’t expect anything positive in your future. Acceptance is a huge part of being a couple.
4.Sadness, depression, regret
If you feel these emotions and you know they happen because of your relationship, you can guess, right? It is time to move on. A healthy relationship means being with a partner who will never be the reason for your sadness, in fact, your partner should be the one who will try to cheer you up.
5.Relationship or law?
If every conversation with your partner feels like a trial, you are probably giving you much effort without anything in return. Even when you try to resolve an issue, your partner ignores all your efforts and complaints and they keep doing the same things over and over again. You have the right to your own opinion and nobody should disrespect that by ignoring what you have to say.
6.Partner comes first
Putting your partner first will make your life a living hell. Never ignore your own emotions, desires and plans just to make someone else happy. This always ends disastrously especially if your partner leaves you. Try to spend more time on yourself and focus on your plans and goals.
7.Wanting your partner to miraculously change
Even though people change, it is impossible to expect something to be different within a short period of time. Everyone has a different idea of being a good person, and if your partner already considers themselves their best version, there is nothing you can do to change them no matter how hard you try.
8.Problems don’t come first
Some people are excellent in avoiding discussion related to their problems. If your partner is one of those people, you don’t need such a person in your life.