Many people are too worried about what others think of their appearance, career, friends, how they act, speak, behave etc. They spend their entire life trying to please others and change who they are just to avoid being judged.
However, conforming to social standards constantly will make you lose touch with your authenticity. It can lead to depression and anxiety once you realize you are not living the life you want. Even though you want to be a person everyone will love, it is not possible. People will think what they want to think, and there is nothing you can do to change it. These are some of the signs you worry too much about other people’s opinion.
1. Putting other people’s needs ahead of yours
Trying to please others all the time will not leave a minute of your day to do something about yourself. Never prioritize someone else over you, because that way to tell people you are worth less than them.
2. Feeling guilty for spending time on your hobbies
Our hobbies are food for our mind and soul and the fuel for our creative mind. They help us become better and achieve more. Being busy all the time might not leave much time for your hobbies. Or, if you avoid doing your hobbies because you are scared others might think it is not appropriate for you, you will feel unhappy.
3. Being a social chameleon
If you constantly change the way you think, look, feel etc. just to fit in your social environment, it is a sign you are losing touch with the real you. Also, if you say you agree on things you actually despise or think badly of, it is a sign you do that just because you are worried about what others will think. You should always defend your opinions and views in order to build a strong character.
4. Telling white lies
People tell white lies from time to time, but if you do that just to be accepted by a group, you are worried about being left out. It is important to stay true to your thoughts and values, and always be around people who accept you for who you are.
5. Not being able to say NO
If you agree to do things even if you don’t like them, you should ask yourself why you are doing that. There is no point in agreeing to do something just to be accepted by someone. Be true to yourself and those who appreciate you for that are the people you need in your life.
6. Thinking too much before saying something
If you catch yourself doing this too often, you are trying too hard to say the right things. It is impossible to give the perfect answer always. Saying the right things is good in certain occasions, but you don’t have to do it all the time. Don’t censor yourself and just be yourself.
7. Being afraid to ask for help
If it is difficult for you to ask for help because you are afraid of looking weak, you are actually not secure enough in yourself. Asking for help actually gives the impression of being a confident and secure person.
8. Always playing the victim
If you play the victim any time you have a problem, you are trying to make others sympathize with you instead of blaming you for your mistakes. However, people will realize this eventually, and they will change their perspective on you. Be a responsible adult take full responsibility over your actions.
Caring about what others think may lead to disappointment. Instead of trying to make everyone like you, just be yourself and focus on your happiness first. Always be proud of who you are, because you are the person responsible for your happiness and success.