The number of breakups and divorces is getting higher and higher and it can make us stop believing that there is actually someone out there who is right for us. If you are already in a relationship, it is also difficult to get the right advice when challenges occur. A lot of people think that we don’t choose our partners, but that destiny does that for us. Regardless of what you believe in, you should always be aware and certain that you are in a healthy relationship.
It is sometimes difficult to notice the good things in a relationship, so the following 6 tips can be helpful to determine whether your partner is the right one for you.
1. Communication is kind, open and honest
If the words you say to each other are kind and loving most of the time, you are in the right relationship. Everything has its ups and downs, but if you want to last, you need to include kind communication more. But, communication should always be honest. You need to be able to tell your partner anything without the fear of being judged. Also, you should expect honesty and understanding. If you can’t do this, you definitely have a problem.
You also want to be sure your partner is being honest with you. Nobody is perfect, and if you catch your partner in a white lie, it doesn’t mean they are a bad person. Forgiveness encourages honesty.
2. Both of you know how to make each other feel truly loved
Everyone has different expectations about love. In a healthy relationship, both partners understand each other’s needs and take care of them the best way they can. It can be a cup of coffee in the morning, a romantic getaway or anything that makes your partner’s heart beat faster.
This can be achieved with good communication because your partner can’t read your mind. Unless you tell them your desires, they will not learn the things you want and they will be unable to satisfy you.
3. You keep conflict and fights “on the down low”
Conflicts are a normal part of every relationship. Humans are different and you can’t always agree with your partner on everything. Actually it is healthy to have disagreements and speaking your mind. When you don’t agree with your partner, let them know instead of letting those feelings pile up and come out uglier later.
Healthy disagreements involve listening without defending and speaking without offending. Also, never involve someone else in your disagreement. If you can’t reach a mutual agreement, just agree to disagree. This tip is essential for you to master if you want your relationship to last, because you will have lots of fights in the years to come.
4. Your trusted family members and friends approve
These people sometimes know us better than we know ourselves. Also, when we are in love we forget to think clearly and reasonably. But, the people that care about us will see any red flags, and if they are approving of your relationship it is an excellent sign you are on a good way.
Always appreciate the opinion of people close to you. You don’t have to do what they say, but at least hear them out.
5. There is a healthy blend of time together (and time apart)
At the beginning of a relationship all we want to do is spend every minute with our partner. But, spending some time apart lets you realize how important your relationship is to you. Spending some time separated gives a special feeling that can’t be replaced by anything. It also gives you time do to the things you love if your partner is not that interested in your hobbies.
6. You see service above self
In a healthy relationship, it is important to bring happiness to yourself, but also do something to contribute to the happiness of your partner and also show your love to them. You should never neglect your own self-care, but showing appreciation will make your partner want to return the favor.