Everyone has a different theory and definition of a happy marriage. However, we should not expect others to help us be happy, instead we are the ones responsible for creating our happiness. Here are some of the best marriage advice that might help you have a long and happy life with your partner.
1.Find the good
“A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. It simply means you’ve chosen to look beyond the imperfections in both.” ~ Fawn Weaver If we are focused on the good qualities of our partner it is easy to overlook the simple things that annoy as. Always remain focused on the good things.
2.Find your happy
“Marriage doesn’t make you happy–you make your marriage happy.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott. Try to do something that makes you happy every day and your relationship will benefit from it too. If you are not happy with yourself, you can’t expect to be happy in a relationship.
3.Forgive the imperfections
“A successful marriage isn’t the union of two perfect people. It’s that of two imperfect people who have learned the value of forgiveness and grace.” ~ Darlene Schacht
Being able to forgive your partner is extremely important in a relationship. If you hold grudges you will be overwhelmed with negative energy thus not able to be the best version of yourself.
4.It starts with you
“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” ~ Barnett R. Brickner
If you are trying too hard to change your partner you are only going to make things worse, especially if you are not doing anything to improve yourself.
5.Your marriage should be your priority
“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.” ~ Barbara De Angelis
Think of your marriage as a part of you and take care of it in order to make it grow.
6.Show your love every day
“The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re still alive.” ~ Orlando Battista
Never stop showing your partner how much you love them.
7.Enjoy the good things
“Marriage is like a fine wine, if tended properly, it just gets better with age.” ~ Unknown
Being grateful about the good things in your marriage will make you feel better thus making your relationship even stronger.
8.Self-care should be a priority
“One of the greatest gifts you can give your husband is your own wholeness.” ~ Stormie Omartian
If you don’t take care of yourself, you will not be able to take care of your relationship. This should also be a priority.
9.Learn from past mistakes and imagine the future
“Marriage. It’s like a cultural hand-rail. It links folks to the past and guides them to the future.” ~ Diane Frolov
Use the bad experiences from the past as a lesson to create a better future.
10.Learn something new daily
“A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” ~ Pearl Buck
You should learn with love because learning is essential for evolution and growth, and growth is essential for a strong relationship.
11.Live in the present
“Love like there’s no tomorrow, and if tomorrow comes, love again.” ~ Max Lucado
Focus on the important things only and avoid being distracted with everyday things that prevent you from living in the moment.
12.Celebrate the best versions of both of you
“In marriage, when we honor and celebrate each other, we’re freed up to be the best people we can be.” ~ Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
Everyday celebration of the good things in your relationship is very helpful.
13.Be kind and generous
“A good marriage is a contest of generosity.” ~ Diane Sawyer
Try to do at least one special thing every day. It does not have to be spectacular, simple things such as a little note or a surprise cup of coffee are also nice ways to express your love for your partner.
14.Actions are louder than words
“Married couples who love each other tell each other a thousand things without talking.” ~ Chinese Proverb
Pay attention to your actions and always make sure they show love. Sometimes using words is not enough to express your love.
15.Invest your time
“The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.” ~ Amy Grant
Spending time with each other is very important part of a strong relationship.
16.Give a free pass
“Make a list of ten of your spouse’s faults, which, for the sake of your marriage, you will always overlook. You can live with those ten.” ~ J & G Murphy
This includes the things about your partner that annoy you. Try to commit yourself to accept them and let them go.
17.The little things count
“It’s the little things that keep us together. Those little things will make me love you forever.” ~ Sonia Schaad
Grand gestures of love are nothing compared to the little everyday things.
18.Show your support
“Lean on each other’s strengths. Forgive each other’s weaknesses.” ~ Unknown
When everything is good in the relationship there are no challenges and everything is nice, but tough times make it stronger. Always be there for your partner and give them your support whenever they need it.
19.Maintenance matters
“A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out you don’t go and buy a new house, you change the lightbulb.” ~ Unknown
Your relationship should get regular care because if you don’t do it often it is harder to maintain.
20.Think freely
“If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind goes when it wanders.” ~ Unknown
Take care of your thinking and creative mind and your relationship will thrive just like your happiness does.
21.Be committed
“Marriage succeeds only as lifetime commitment with no escape clauses.” ~ Dr. James Dobson
It is very simple if you are willing to do it. Promise yourself first that you will be committed and you will see how easier it is to follow it.
This list of 21 rules may seem long but these are everyday things that you should always keep in mind if you want to make your relationship loving and strong. Which one do you think is the most important?