Cheating is wrong, no matter what was the reason that caused it. Even though people cheat for different reasons, it is always an act that seriously damages a partner’s self-esteem and ego. If we were cheated on, we may blame ourselves and think it is about something we did or didn’t do. It definitely shatters a person’s trust and confidence and can seriously impact on our view of love, respect, trust and fidelity.
The pain from being cheated on is one of the worst feelings, and you shouldn’t expect it from someone who loves you. But, cheating is never a quick decision. In fact, it is much more complicated than you think. Here are some truths about cheating you should know.
1. It doesn’t happen overnight
Cheating is not something that happens overnight because it is usually something that a person needs time to think about. So, if someone tells you they cheated because of a quick decision, don’t believe them.
2. You will never know the whole story
Once you catch a cheating partner, they might open up about this behavior, but don’t expect every detail of the story. There will always be something they will keep hidden from you.
3. They are aware they are cheating
A cheating person is fully aware that they are betraying their partner from the beginning. They just choose not to care. This might be hard to find out, but it is the truth. The fact that someone cheats is a clear sign that they don’t consider their partner a priority.
4. It was their choice
You can’t force anyone to cheat, so you should never blame the person your partner cheated with. It was also your partner’s decision, and they are the person who owes you loyalty, not the person they cheated with.
5. They want to sweep it under the rug
Someone who cheats will never want to hear someone speak about it or be blamed for their actions. This is why lots of cheaters ask their partners to forget about it by requesting a new beginning.
6. They could to the same thing again
If you caught your cheating partner once, you can never be sure whether they would repeat it or not. However, it is difficult to trust them after being unfaithful to you because it causes such pain that it is hard to cope with the whole situation.
7. Winning back trust is very hard
Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship, and if broken, it can symbolize the end of it. So, cheating on people means gambling with their trust and it is hard to win it back once lost. You might try to trust a cheating partner again, but it will take a long time.
8. You can’t be sure it was the first time
Once a partner finds out their partner cheated on them, they can never be sure they haven’t done that at least once again in the past. Even though your partner might claim it was the first and only time, you can never be sure about it. This is another aspect connected with trust, so it is normal to doubt your partner’s words.
9. Cheating back won’t fix anything
Getting even about cheating will only make you feel worse. You deserve more than that. Instead of wasting your time trying to get back for something you don’t support, focus on working on your well-being.
10. There is always a reason for cheating
Someone might say they don’t know why they cheated, but there is always a reason for it. They simply don’t want to let their partner know or they want to avoid hurting them more.
11. Cheating doesn’t mean the person was unhappy
Cheating can happen even in the happiest relationships and it doesn’t always happen because of something one of the partners did or didn’t do.
12. In most cases, people cheat with someone they know
This is not always true, but it is in most cases. People usually cheat with a friend or colleague; people they are close to.
13. Emotional cheating is just as painful
Just like physical cheating, emotional cheating is also painful because it means your partner has created a strong bond with someone else.