If you are still single, you are probably wondering why you haven’t met your love of your life yet. You might feel like there is no person that can complement you. But, the reason might be the unresolved issues you have within yourself. Being comfortable with being single is perfectly fine. However, never blame a higher force for you being alone. Once you are prepared for a relationship, the right person will appear in your life.
For now, you need to stop and think about why you might be simple. It might be your big expectations of who your partner should be. Everyone deserves great things and it doesn’t mean we are unrealistic. However, it is important to be aware that there is no such thing as a perfect person. Nobody is perfect, not even you, so don’t expect that from your future partner.
1. High expectations
The person you have created in your mind is very unlikely to exist. Love is full of imperfections and complications and that’s the beauty of it. You need to embrace the imperfections and be aware that love is never smooth. You have to invest your time and effort to make it work.
2. You have a questionable taste in partners
Choosing people who are likeminded is more important than focusing on superficial aspects. Physical appearance never makes a relationship last long.
3. You are not prepared to be in a relationship
People are often pressured into doing things they are not ready for. Following the expectations of others just because everyone else is married or in a relationship, doesn’t make you ready for love. Just enjoy yourself and do what you want, not what you are expected to.
4. You have commitment phobia
Some people are afraid of commitment and you might be scared by getting too serious. You might have had past traumas or bad role models or you can simply be scared of getting hurt. You should heal yourself completely before being able to fall in love again.
5. The right one for you has not yet arrived
Don’t race with time. Just be open minded and the right person for you will eventually appear.
6. You are stressing over it
Being desperate to be in a relationship might push people away from you. Nobody wants to be involved with someone who is clingy. Relax, stop pushing it and let things flow.
7. You are not searching correctly
If you want to find someone you should look at places you are interesting for you. This increases the possibility of meeting someone with similar preferences which can help strengthen the connection between the two of you.
8. You are comparing them to an ideal
Appreciate the person for who they are without comparing them to your ex or an image you have created in your head. Doing so will destroy your chance of happiness.
9. No real experience
If your expectations about love were created by novels or romantic movies, you might be very disappointed when you go back to reality. There is no single formula for a flawless relationship. You need to create your own path with your partner.
10. You ruin things
You might do this without being aware of it probably because you don’t love yourself enough to believe that you deserve good things. You might destroy things even before you can get more serious with your partner.
We hope these tips have helped you realize more about yourself and that you will soon find love.