We all have our flaws and there is no perfect human being anywhere in the world. Sometimes we say things that can hurt our partner without thinking about it much. These are some of those sentences that can either ruin or strengthen your relationship.
1. Do what you want vs Let’s decide what we can do
Using passive aggressive approach when communication with your partner will only reflect negatively on your relationship. It can be confusing and offensive, so be more careful with your words and try to talk with your partner until you reach a compromise.
2. You never help vs I can’t do everything by myself
House chores can be very tiring and they often require help from both partners. However, if you feel your partner is not that helpful around your home, instead of blaming him try to explain that it is too difficult for you and that you need their help.
3. You did it on purpose vs I know it was an accident
If your partner accidentally destroys your favorite coffee mug, you should never lash out at them because it will never end good. Things like that happen so try to be more understanding and tell them you know it was an accident. Your partner will probably feel bad enough so don’t add salt to his wound.
4. You well never lose weight without a diet vs Losing weight is tough, but you can do it
The weight loss process is difficult and long, so it is important to feel supported by our partner. Try to be as positive, supportive and optimistic as you can and do your best to help your partner achieve their goal.
5. I told you that would happen vs Let’s try something else
Nobody can predict the future and even though our expectations often come true, it does not mean you should blame your partner for not listening to you. Move forward and stop being negative about things you can’t change.
6. You need more exercise vs Would you like to go for a walk?
If your partner has gained some weight but they are not that aware of it, and you want to let them know, it is extremely important to tell them in the best possible way. Propose going for a walk, which might eventually turn into a habit that will help your partner get back in shape.
7. Be thankful you don’t have it worse vs I’m so sorry this happened to you
Life is so difficult and challenging sometimes and our situation might feel like it is the end of the world. There are always less fortunate people, but that doesn’t mean you should diminish your partner’s current emotions. Instead, try to comfort them and be supportive. The leas you can do is listen.
8. You already said that vs This sounds important to you
People often talk a lot about things they are very excited about or things that are extremely important to them. For others around them it can be frustrating and annoying, but instead of making your partner feel bad, try to empathize and share their excitement.
9. Why didn’t you quit sooner if you hated your job? vs It sounds like hell
We all hate our job sometimes, and it can often be very difficult to cope with our everyday work tasks and the stress. And the person we want to share this with is usually our partner, so try to be supportive if your partner wants to talk about his day. Be gentle, they are already hurt enough.
10. It’s OK vs I accept the apology
Just saying “It’s OK” in order to end the discussion will not make anything better. Let your partner know you appreciate and accept their apology and try to understand why they did something wrong. Discussing about the situation instead of just saying “It’s OK”, might prevent your partner form repeating the same thing over and over again.