People are usually afraid of the unknown regardless of what it is about. Sometimes even relationships can be scary because we find ourselves in an unknown territory. It makes it difficult to know what we can do to make a relationship work. However, there are lots of useful things such as the following 10 tips. Keep reading to learn how you can build a strong and long lasting relationship.
1. Fresh air and water
You will never feel good surrounded by polluted air. The same goes with being suffocated by a relationship. We all need some fresh air every once in a while. Don’t get stuck in a routine. Spend time with your friends, take a walk in the nature alone or just relax in a warm bath.
2. Hunt and gather
We have all heard the saying “The fastest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Food is necessary for us to survive and eating healthy food keeps us healthy, energized as well as emotionally stable. Sharing a meal with a loved one makes eating meaningful. Try to enjoy lunch or dinner together without any distractions such as TV, phones or computers.
3. A warm fire
Just like fire needs oxygen, relationships need love. Spend time with your partner snuggling and cuddling. Do daily tasks without even being asked to do. Put the laundry away. Little things like that show your love daily and you don’t even have to say a word. They will keep the fire alive and it will never stop burning.
4. A sturdy shelter
We are all exposed to stressful situations every day and we need to get away from reality from time to time. The best shelter is near our partner whose compassion and kindness can keep us protected from the storm. Find a sanctuary in your partner and provide one for them too. Be each other’s support whenever you need it.
5. Safety and security
Feeling safe in a relationship is important if we want it to grow. There is no room for physical or emotional abuse in a healthy relationship. However, other very important aspects include trust, respect, appreciation and vulnerability. If you are unable to trust your partner and vice versa, you will always feel insecure. The following 5 points are extremely important for the wellbeing of a relationship.
6. Acceptance
You have to accept each other for exactly who you are. You should never try to change your partner to fit your image of an ideal person. Our past, mistakes and failures make us who we are. We all have done things we are not proud of, so accept your partner with all his/her wounds, scars and flaws, and love them unconditionally.
7. Commitment
You can never be committed to someone if there is something wrong with the foundation of your relationship. Commitment is necessary for a long term relationship. You should let your partner know that you will always be there for them.
8. Compromise
Misunderstandings and occasional arguments are perfectly acceptable part of a healthy relationship. However, it is important how you solve those arguments. You should never leave something unfinished, neither ask your partner to accept your idea nor accept theirs even though you are completely against it. You need to find a solution that will work for both of you.
9. Forgiveness
Being with one person for a long time gives you a chance to hurt their feelings. However, you should never cling on to something your partner did even though they have apologized numerous times. Don’t bring their mistakes up during every argument you have. At some point you need to let go because that burden will never allow you to move on with your relationship.
10. Honesty
Without honesty you can’t expect a long lasting love. If you have made a mistake, tell your partner and try to work through it. Honesty is something that is built over a long period of time and it can be lost within a second. Also, if you are always honest with your partner you don’t have to remember all the white lies you told them before.